Love is indeed a beautiful thing! It keeps you on another level of excitement and a feeling that the future is looking bright.
But know that the butterflies and excitement of a new relationship will fade away; how do you tell if the person you’re with is really the person you should spend the rest of your life with?
This is an important question every lady needs to answer once the relationship gets more serious.
There are a variety of factors to look into and there are no easy ‘tests’ to see if he is the one or not but there are some things you can lookout for that will help you gauge long-term compatibility.
Here are 10 important signs that will let you know he is the ‘one:
You have the same values
You are both on the same page when it comes to such important values such as family, spirituality, personal growth and health. You’re just as comfortable around his friends and family as your own.
You trust and respect each other deeply
Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship — whether it’s trusting them when they go out with their friends or confiding in them when you’re upset. He says he’s working late, you don’t instantly panic or your instincts telling you he is lying or with another woman.
You like each other’s families
In Africa especially, you don’t just marry your soul mate but his family as well. Many people complain about the in-laws and this doesn’t indicate your union is doomed, but life is so much easier when everyone gets along for the most part.
You have similar interests
You don’t have to like all the same things but it helps to have some similar interests. That way, it helps to eliminate a lot of arguments between you too on silly issues couples normally quarrel about.
He makes you feel better about yourself
Having someone who always makes you smile, laughs at your even terrible jokes will make you feel more confident. Someone who tells you how beautiful you are to him from the moment you wake up is going to make you feel prettier and happier in your skin. Knowing someone as fabulous as your partner loves you makes you feel pretty!
He makes you his priority
Your partner knows there’s nothing better than doing anything for you – regardless of what it is. He makes sure you’re the priority and everything that concerns you is important to him.
You miss him when you’re apart
If you miss him when he is not with you is a good sign you truly love him. Wanting to be with the person you love all of the time doesn’t make you needy or annoying. It shows you cherish that person deeply and understand what they mean to you.
He’s seen you at your worst and still loves you
If your partner has seen you at your worst moments like when you are angry, looking totally unkempt or crying and still loves you regardless of the horrible situations he found you in, then know he is truly the one you have been waiting for.
He is emotionally mature
While it’s fun and charming to be with a guy who’s always in a playful mood, it’s essential to be an adult whenever necessary. A date who is responsible, self-regulating, emotionally responsive, motivated, and in control of his or her impulses is capable of being a supportive, fully participating partner — no matter what joys and sorrows, successes and failures you may face in the course of a lifetime.
You are physically attracted to him
This is very important. Physical attraction on both sides helps to sustain any marriage. If you love looking at him as much as he also admires you and both of you are compatible, physically attracted to each other coupled with the other attributes listed above, then know you are can go ahead and say, Yes!
